Wisdom from Our Circle

Thriving Together
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I am consciously putting energy into collecting the wisdom that flows forth from my engagements with my Circle. My deep sense is that these points are part of Wisdom for Thriving, and the more we amplify these and explore them Together, the stronger the emotional and energetic field around Thriving becomes… Now and Onwards.

We begin with these below. Always feel free to explore, comment, add-to, or refine any of them! They are definitely never put forward as “absolute truth” (haha), yet… Wisdom is meant to be shared. Wisdom is meant to be passed from one human heart-mind to another.

Emotional Freedom

  • I really don’t see my next step, but I do see that battle energy never serves me, and going in circles and repeating myself is a waste of time.
  • It’s savvy to politely lie when dealing with someone who is not on your side, especially if it helps you navigate a dysfunctional system.
  • When we’re coping with someone who is not on our side, it’s okay to prioritize your own well-being and disengage from the power struggle.
  • They call them patients because they expect you to be patient with them, but they don’t have to be patient with you.
  • I don’t need to inherit worry; the world doesn’t need more worry, but it could use more of me.
  • Worry is like running in place; it keeps you busy but doesn’t take you anywhere.
  • Shifting out of worry is a big part of thriving and gives you more access to your wisdom.

Self-Empowerment

  • I’ve been working on how to be my own CEO—of my body, my life—in a way where I’m not jumping through hoops for others.
  • The way I’m navigating the system was never set up for someone like me, and that’s okay because I’m a trailblazer.
  • I trust myself because I’ve figured things out through knowledge and learning where to put my feet and where not to.
  • This is my precious energy, and I want to use it my way.
  • I want to exercise my energy differently, focusing on what feels better for me and those I care about.
  • I’m bored of letting worry run my life; I need something juicier for me.

Navigating Relationships

  • When someone’s energy feels heavy or toxic, it’s okay to redirect the conversation or disengage to protect your own well-being.
  • I can assert my right to tune the energy of a conversation to something that works for me.
  • Focusing on the positive aspects of someone can shift the energy of the relationship and help me connect in a healthier way.
  • It’s okay to set boundaries with people who bring negativity or gossip into my life.
  • I can choose to appreciate and acknowledge the good in someone rather than defaulting to worry or frustration.

Grief and Connection

  • It’s okay to pre-grieve the loss of someone dear to you; their death doesn’t change how much they mean to you.
  • Talking about grief and letting it out can feel good and help you process the sadness.
  • Even when life takes different turns and physical distance grows, the love and connection with someone dear remain unchanged.

Thriving in a Dysfunctional System

  • The medical system, like many institutions, is broken, and navigating it requires savvy and self-advocacy.
  • Gratitude for lifesaving treatment doesn’t mean the system is functional or respectful; it’s okay to acknowledge its flaws.
  • Being savvy means working to get your needs met in a dysfunctional system while staying true to yourself.
  • When dealing with a broken system, it’s important to trust your intuition and find alternative paths that align with your values.

Appreciation and Perspective

  • Writing down a list of things I appreciate about someone can shift my energy and help me focus on the positive.
  • When I focus on love, appreciation, and acceptance, I create a better energy for myself and those around me.
  • I’d rather love the people I’m connected to, even if they’re going through a hard time, than let worry or negativity dominate my energy.
  • Neutralizing worry and focusing on appreciation opens the door to deeper wisdom and connection.

Letting Go of Default Patterns

  • Worry may be a default way of showing care, but it’s not as useful as other options like love and appreciation.
  • I can break free from inherited patterns, like worry, and choose a new way of being that feels more aligned with who I am.
  • When I let go of worry, I free up energy to focus on what truly matters and what brings me joy.
  • I don’t need to carry the weight of others’ negativity or unresolved issues; I can choose to focus on what uplifts me.

Humor and Playfulness

  • When faced with negativity or gossip, I can use humor or playfulness to shift the energy and lighten the mood.
  • Asking, “How many plants will it cost me for you not to tell me this?” can be a playful way to set boundaries.
  • Turning up the warmth in a cold or windy emotional environment can either invite connection or encourage the other person to move on.

Trusting Intuition

  • I’ll figure it out somehow because I trust myself and my ability to navigate challenges.
  • My intuition is a reliable guide, especially when I’m faced with uncertainty or difficult decisions.
  • When I’m more in my heart and gut than in my head, I can access deeper clarity and wisdom.
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Navigating Complex Relationships

  • My relationship with her has always been complex, and I acknowledge that’s where I am right now.
  • These are not simple waters; this is not some calm lake to paddle across.
  • I know I’m not going to change her, and I’m still holding on to the illusion that I can.
  • Wise people remind us that we can’t change others, but we can change how we navigate our relationship with them.
  • Guilt is not guidance; it’s often a signal to go deeper into what truly matters to us.
  • Arguing with reality isn’t helping me; it’s time to accept and navigate from where I am.
  • I aspire to be someone my children will want to celebrate, but that’s up to me and them.

Emotional Freedom and Self-Acceptance

  • I am not in control of others, but I am in control of how I show up with love and presence.
  • I can’t be something I’m not; accepting myself as I am allows others to grow up knowing love even in imperfection.
  • Being deeply pleased, deeply annoyed, and deeply in love with life models passionate engagement for those around us.
  • Guilt is a childish kind of guidance; true guidance comes from deeper clarity about what matters to me.
  • I am not responsible for someone else’s life; I can only respond with as much presence and care as I can muster.

Letting Go of Control

  • I am not in control of whether he lives or dies, but I am loving, present, and in this together.
  • Sacred decisions rarely feel 100% clear, but they carry a resonance that guides us.
  • Animals and humans often communicate their readiness for transition in ways that go beyond words.
  • Being scared for someone is different from being present with them; I aspire to be present and loving, even in uncertainty.
  • Life and death are not fully in my control, but I can honor the sacredness of the time we have together.

Navigating Family Expectations

  • I can’t meet her expectations, and that’s okay; I need to navigate from my own truth.
  • Writing down what matters to me helps clarify what I want to pass on and what I don’t.
  • Sometimes, the best way to express my truth is not directly to the person but in a way that brings me peace.
  • I can’t change someone’s nature, but I can choose how I engage with them and protect my energy.

Processing Grief and Transition

  • It’s okay to be in the “not yet” when making sacred decisions about life and death.
  • Animals often hold on for meaningful moments, teaching us about the preciousness of time together.
  • Grief and fear are natural, but they don’t have to define how I show up in love and presence.
  • I can honor the connection we share, even in the face of uncertainty and transition.
  • Letting go of control doesn’t mean letting go of love; it means trusting the process and being present.

Inner Child Healing

  • My inner child still longs for love and recognition, but I know that’s not something I can force from others.
  • I can witness and honor my inner child’s needs without letting them drive my decisions.
  • Healing comes from allowing my inner child to be heard and understood, even if not by the person who caused the pain.
  • I am evolving beyond being a victim of my parents; I am cultivating the person I want to be.

Living Authentically

  • I aspire to live a life of passionate engagement, embracing the full range of emotions and experiences.
  • Cleaning up emotional messes is part of life, just like cleaning up physical messes.
  • Allowing myself to be deeply delighted and deeply annoyed is part of living authentically.
  • I want to be someone who creates space for others to celebrate and connect with me joyfully.

Finding Peace in Uncertainty

  • Sacred decisions are a “we” process, involving love, presence, and mutual understanding.
  • Being present with someone in their challenges is more powerful than trying to control the outcome.
  • Life’s unpredictability teaches us to embrace the moment and trust the unfolding process.
  • Even in the face of fear and grief, I can choose to show up with love and presence.
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Building Authentic Connections

  • It can be our free and devoted choice to focus on building a circle of beings who are more than just acquaintances, investing our life force in deeper, closer connections.
  • Recognize that not everyone will align with your desire for deeper connection, and it’s okay to bless them on their way.
  • Authentic relationships require mutual initiation, understanding, and flexibility; these connections are precious and rare.
  • A thriving life for many of us includes a circle of kin at different layers and levels of closeness and depth.
  • Be clear about your needs and boundaries, and honor them by finding Right Distance Right Depth (including letting go at times) those relationships that don’t meet them.

Emotional Freedom and Acceptance

  • We can often feel the “divine timing” of events, even if they happen later than we wished.
  • It’s okay to feel grief over what could have been while also accepting the reality of what is.
  • Acknowledge that expressing your feelings may activate emotional pain for others, but sometimes that is essential for our own healing and freedom.
  • As we tap on blame and resentment, we create space for love and connection.
  • Acceptance doesn’t mean giving up; it means finding peace with what is while continuing to care deeply.

Self-Care and Embodiment

  • Include yourself in the care and love you give to others; tending to yourself honors your relationships.
  • Reconnect with your body by noticing and appreciating its parts—wiggle your toes, touch your liver, and feel your breath.
  • Shift from hyper-vigilance to a state of flow and presence by moving your body gently and intentionally.
  • Emotional processing involves the whole body, not just the mind; allow your organs and energy systems to participate in releasing and healing.
  • Balance caregiving with self-inclusion in the Caring to avoid burnout and maintain your own well-being.

Navigating Grief and Loss

  • Grief is a natural part of love and connection.
  • Life includes challenges and losses, and to heal and thrive we explore ways to be at peace with them.
  • Trying to control outcomes can lead to exhaustion; instead, focus on what we can influence and the love we can feel together.
  • Honor the love and connection we share with others by being present and tending to our own needs.

Courage and Vulnerability

  • It takes courage to express our feelings and seek closure, even when it’s painful.
  • Vulnerability can lead to profound healing and deeper connections with others.
  • Trust that your efforts to build meaningful relationships and care for others are valuable, even in challenging circumstances.
  • Acknowledge your strength and persistence in navigating life’s difficulties with authenticity and heart.

Energy and Balance

  • Balance your energy by including yourself in the flow of care and love you give to others.
  • Recognize that your body and energy systems are designed to process emotions and experiences; allow them to do so.
  • Shift from a mindset of “vigilant sacrifice” to one of shared energy and mutual care.
  • Trust that as you practice connecting with your body and energy flows, it will become more natural over time.
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So many pieces of wisdom here…

I would add:

It’s good to be your own best friend, understand your struggles and listen to your own heart because it keeps you liave.

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These are powerful words @Rick. Really profound especially if we remember them at the time they are needed. Many times, especially when we haven’t practiced and we’re faced with one of these situations unexpectedly, we might not hve the savvy to care for ourselves well. I know through my life I’ve given in rather than taking care of myself. The times I tried to take care of my needs instead of theirs has ended with me suffering, becoming angry and doubled over with stomach pains and a huge loss of chi.

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Thriving Through Emotional Awareness

  • Thriving is not about choosing between healing or suffering forever; it’s about the small, intentional steps we take today to avoid what harms us and move toward what helps us.
  • Healing can begin by simply not doing the things that make our pain worse; this is a powerful form of self-care.
  • A “not do” list is essential for thriving: foods, activities, or relationships that don’t work for us belong on that list.
  • Binary thinking—“I heal or I’m in pain forever”—guarantees suffering. Life is about the in-between, the progress, and the choices we make moment by moment.

Rewriting Our Stories

  • The stories we tell ourselves can either hurt us or heal us. We have the power to rewrite them.
  • “I’m tired of these old, shitty stories” is the first step to creating a new narrative that reflects our courage and resilience.
  • Our lives are hero’s journeys, and we can choose to write them differently before we’re gone.
  • The same old song in our heads doesn’t define us; it’s just a stuck tune. We can change it and create a new melody for our lives.

The Power of Awareness

  • Self-sabotage isn’t about being broken; it’s about being stuck in patterns that no longer serve us. Awareness is the first step to freedom.
  • Recognizing the ways we punish ourselves—whether through actions or stories—allows us to stop and choose differently.
  • Seeing manipulation and gaslighting for what they are is a huge step toward reclaiming our power.
  • “I’m seeing it more clearly now, and that’s useful for me.” Clarity is a gift we give ourselves.

Emotional Regulation and Resilience

  • Staying regulated when others are not is a skill that strengthens our emotional freedom.
  • Anger can be healthy and loving when it’s used as a source of clarity and strength.
  • Emotional freedom is about re-regulating ourselves after being thrown off by external chaos.
  • Boundaries are not just about saying no; they’re about honoring what matters to us and protecting our energy.

Living with Grace and Power

  • Grace and power are not opposites; they can flow together. “I love how much grace I can bring to my power and power to my grace.”
  • Fun fire—passion and curiosity—can fuel us, even in the face of challenges. “I have some fun fire in me.”
  • Happiness isn’t about everything being perfect; it’s about finding love, connection, and joy in the small moments.
  • “I’m not just a head delivery system. I have powerful energy, and I’m learning how to use it.”

The Hero’s Journey

  • “Mine has been a hero’s journey, or else I would have been dead.” Every life is a hero’s journey, filled with challenges and transformation.
  • Pain and difficulty are part of the hero’s journey, but they don’t define it. “It hurts, but I’m thriving anyway.”
  • Writing our hero’s story now, rather than waiting, allows us to live with intention and purpose. “I want to write my story differently before I’m dead.”
  • The journey is not about perfection but about progress, courage, and the willingness to keep going.

Navigating Fear and Uncertainty

  • Fear is a signal that we’re activated, not a sign of failure. “Of course I’m activated—I’m not an idiot.”
  • Facing fear with awareness and grace allows us to move through it without being consumed by it.
  • “I’m not afraid of the C-word journey. I’ve already been on a hero’s journey, and I’m still here.”
  • Challenges, like health scares or difficult relationships, can ignite a “fun fire” in us to learn, grow, and live more fully.

Connection and Support

  • Holding space for ourselves and others during difficult times is a profound act of love. “We can hold space for each other.”
  • Sharing our experiences, even the messy ones, helps us see that we’re not alone. “Thank you for holding space for me.”
  • Emotional freedom is a shared journey. “Aren’t we all rewriting our stories together?”
  • The energy we bring to our relationships and actions can create ripples of healing and connection. “I’m learning to regulate myself, and it’s making a difference.”
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Gratitude and Simple Joys

  • Life’s simple pleasures can uplift us, even in the smallest moments of curiosity and appreciation.
  • When something is done and replaced, it’s an opportunity to embrace the new and find joy in its function.
  • Simple acts of observation and wonder can bring connection and delight, like watching a washer cycle or listening to ocean waves.

Emotional Freedom and Energy Rebalancing

  • Frustration is energy that can be acknowledged and gently rebalanced for our benefit.
  • Settling the waves of energy within us allows for clarity and peace.
  • We don’t need to carry grief in our lungs; we can release it and let our nervous system recalibrate.
  • Tuning into calm, rhythmic imagery like a calm sea or happy dolphins can help us find inner balance.

Community and Healthy Boundaries

  • Healthy communities require clear communication and boundaries to thrive.
  • Avoidance of conflict can harm the collective well-being; addressing issues directly is a courageous and kind act.
  • When someone’s behavior violates the shared agreements of a community, it’s important to communicate this respectfully and clearly.
  • One person’s willingness to hold boundaries can inspire change in the entire community.

Courage and Self-Awareness

  • True courage often doesn’t feel like courage; it’s the willingness to show up, feel deeply, and grow through challenges.
  • Seeing others accurately, even in difficult relationships, requires extraordinary heart and clarity.
  • It’s a kind and courageous act to lovingly address behaviors that harm the collective or ourselves.
  • Observing and understanding the dynamics of others’ energy can help us disentangle from enmeshment and reclaim our peace.

Healing and Connection

  • Love, acceptance, and deeper listening are powerful tools for self-healing and unwinding old patterns.
  • Subtle, non-forceful actions often lead to the deepest healing and reconnection within ourselves.
  • When we connect the dots within us, we create flow and integration, allowing energy to move freely and supportively.
  • Healing is a process of curiosity, connection, and allowing the body and energy to guide us gently.

Navigating Challenges and Growth

  • Facing the truth about relationships and dynamics can be painful but ultimately clarifying and freeing.
  • It’s heartbreaking to realize that certain relationships may never meet the kinship we desire, but this clarity allows us to move forward.
  • In the midst of chaos and disorganized energy, finding clarity and detachment is an extraordinary act of resilience.
  • Even in rough seas, we can navigate with courage, holding space for ourselves and others as we grow.

Self-Compassion and Simplicity

  • We don’t have to be heroic; starting with simplicity and self-compassion can lead to profound shifts.
  • Loving and accepting all parts of ourselves, even those that feel deficient, creates space for healing and transformation.
  • When we approach challenges with curiosity and subtlety, we allow for a more natural and sustainable unfolding of growth.
  • It’s okay to take time and let the process of healing and connection unfold gently over time.
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Emotional Regulation and Calmness

  • We are really open to restoring our calm and confidence instead of panic.
  • Let’s take a deep breath and bring some of our energy down into our bodies. Just let ourselves settle.
  • We give ourselves space to heal rather than using all our energy for vigilance.
  • We can be aware of risks without freaking out, tending to ourselves in a way that feels good and right.
  • We are sensitive to the traumas around us, but we want to use our time for being “savvy aware and responsive” rather than hypervigilance.
  • We can quiet the noise of unnecessary worry and focus on being safe enough and prepared enough.

Navigating Uncertainty and Preparedness

  • There’s a difference between being perfectly ready and being ready enough to act when needed.
  • Having a list of essentials can take the pressure off rather than add to it.
  • We trust our bodies’ guidance to rest when needed, knowing it prepares us better for challenges ahead.
  • We can ask the universe for guidance and trust that we will wake up and act if necessary.

Self-Compassion and Recalibration

  • We are recalibrating, and this is part of it.
  • Resting and nesting are not laziness; they are acts of self-care and regeneration.
  • We value being savvy with our bodies, listening to their needs, and honoring their limits.
  • Productivity doesn’t have to come from push; it can come from alignment and balance.
  • We can release judgment about how we spend our time and trust that we are doing what we need to thrive.

Empowerment and Boundaries

  • We have worked hard to develop defenses, and obedience is no longer our highest aspiration.
  • We can stand up for ourselves and set boundaries without regret.
  • Being peaceful doesn’t mean being doormats; it means having the power to act when necessary.
  • We can use our energy to express, “This is not tolerable,” and protect our space.
  • We are aware of our power and can respond with control and respect.

Connection and Support

  • We can let someone know we are tracking and caring without assuming what they need.
  • We trust that our presence and openness can offer support, even if we don’t have the answers.
  • Being willing to listen and allow silence can be a powerful way to hold space for others.
  • We can connect energetically with someone and ask what they might need, trusting the response or the silence.

Thriving in Alignment

  • Lions sleep 20 hours a day and are still powerful; we don’t need to measure our worth by constant productivity.
  • Thriving comes from being savvy with our energy, knowing when to rest and when to act.
  • We honor our limits and trust that they guide us toward what is best for our well-being.
  • We can embody a balance of readiness and rest, trusting that we will know when to act.
  • Thriving is about being present, aligned, and responsive to what truly matters.
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Thriving Through Emotional Awareness and Boundaries

  • Thriving often requires creating emotional distance to protect our energy while staying engaged in meaningful ways.
  • We can advocate for ourselves and others by reframing situations to maintain clarity and detachment.
  • Eye contact can deepen emotional bonds, but reducing it in certain situations can help maintain emotional balance.
  • It’s okay to use tools, like note-taking or recording, to create space and process information more effectively.
  • Empathy is a gift, but it’s essential to balance it with self-protection to avoid emotional overwhelm.
  • Setting intentions for interactions can help us navigate them with clarity and purpose.

Embracing Uncertainty and Gratitude

  • Life is inherently uncertain, and embracing this truth can deepen our presence and gratitude.
  • Gratitude for small, everyday blessings can ground us amidst uncertainty and challenges.
  • Facing mortality and the unknown can be uncomfortable, but it opens the door to deeper self-awareness and connection.
  • Certainty is often an illusion; staying open to evolving truths allows for growth and adaptability.

Energy Management and Self-Compassion

  • Overworking depletes energy and creates resistance; small, consistent steps are more sustainable and effective.
  • It’s important to listen to our bodies and honor their signals to avoid burnout.
  • Self-compassion is key; we don’t need to do everything ourselves, and it’s okay to ask for help.
  • Reframing tasks as opportunities for enjoyment or connection can shift our energy and make them feel lighter.
  • Collaboration and shared experiences can transform heavy tasks into moments of connection and ease.

The Power of Community and Support

  • Thriving involves exchanging support and skills with others, recognizing that we all have unique strengths.
  • Co-creating with others, even in small ways, can lighten the emotional and physical load of tasks.
  • Presence, whether from a person or even a pet, can provide comfort and motivation during challenging tasks.
  • Building a network of support allows us to focus on our strengths while relying on others for their expertise.

Letting Go of Perfectionism and Control

  • Perfectionism and the need to control everything can lead to unnecessary stress and resistance.
  • Delegating tasks to others who specialize in them can free up energy for what truly matters.
  • Money is energy, and investing it in support or services can create more flow and ease in our lives.
  • It’s okay to release outdated beliefs about independence and self-reliance that no longer serve us.

Living with Intention and Presence

  • Setting clear intentions for our actions and interactions helps us stay aligned with our values and goals.
  • Small, mindful actions can create momentum and lead to greater accomplishments over time.
  • Being present in the moment allows us to notice beauty, kindness, and opportunities for connection.
  • Life is a balance of planning for the future and fully experiencing the present.

Navigating Relationships with Compassion

  • Accepting others as they are, rather than expecting them to change, reduces frustration and fosters understanding.
  • When others fall short of expectations, it’s an opportunity to adapt and find new ways to collaborate.
  • Compassion for others’ limitations can help us navigate relationships with more ease and grace.
  • Recognizing that everyone has strengths and weaknesses allows us to approach interactions with empathy and patience.
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Emotional Freedom

  • We do not have to stay in any situation forever; this is an experience, and we can come out of it stronger and clearer.
  • Even though we may feel trapped, this is part of our journey to find strength and freedom.
  • Processing our energy in a professional and intentional way helps us release fear and move forward.
  • Emotional freedom comes from listening to our bodies and honoring what feels right for us, even if it means stepping away or saying no.

Thriving Through Self-Awareness

  • We thrive when we honor our limits and recovery periods, knowing that rest is as important as action.
  • Life is precious, and we have the right to filter out what doesn’t align with our values and energy.
  • By refining what we stand for and what we seek, we create clarity and attract better experiences.
  • Knowing our limits and respecting them is a form of self-love and wisdom.

Strength and Resilience

  • This is an exercise for our strength and freedom; we are here to activate our strengths and grow.
  • We can face challenges as opportunities to sharpen our skills and expand our capacity to be helpful.
  • Even in heavy situations, we can choose to be lighter by focusing on what we can do rather than what we fear.
  • Persistence is a gift; showing up consistently, even in small ways, builds resilience and strength.

Connection and Compassion

  • We can use our empathy to connect with others, even when traditional communication is not possible.
  • Every interaction is an opportunity to leave each other a little stronger, a little better, and a little more human.
  • Compassion and sensitivity are essential qualities in relationships and in how we show up for others.
  • We thrive when we focus on creating moments of connection and meaning, even in the face of pain or difficulty.

Living with Intention

  • We are here to live, not just to survive; every day is an opportunity to grow and expand our territory.
  • Crafting a life that aligns with our values and energy is a sacred act of self-respect.
  • Small, intentional steps can lead to profound shifts in how we engage with life and its challenges.
  • We can choose to focus on thriving moments, sending a message to our bodies and the universe that we want to live fully.

Wisdom in Action

  • Emotional and physical pain can coexist with moments of joy and gratitude; we can hold both at the same time.
  • When we are not a clear yes to something, it’s okay to pause and explore smaller, incremental steps.
  • Listening to our bodies and intuition helps us make decisions that align with our well-being and long-term goals.
  • We are not obligated to follow others’ expectations; our path is unique, and we have the freedom to define it.

Honoring the Body

  • Our bodies are heroic, delivering us another day; gratitude for this is a powerful act of self-love.
  • Recovery is not passive; it is an active process of listening, moving gently, and honoring what we need.
  • Knowing when to step back or adjust our approach is a sign of wisdom, not weakness.
  • We thrive when we treat our bodies as sacred, respecting their limits and celebrating their resilience.

The Power of Choice

  • We have the freedom to choose what aligns with our energy and values, even if it means going against the norm.
  • Saying no to what doesn’t serve us creates space for what truly matters.
  • Life is a series of choices; each one is an opportunity to align with our highest good.
  • We are here to live intentionally, crafting a life that reflects our deepest truths and desires.
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Thriving in the Face of Challenges

  • We cannot stop human nature, but we can choose how we want to be with it.
  • When there is contrast everywhere, we can ask ourselves how we want to show up as embodied humans.
  • Confidence and peace are qualities we can model, even when we don’t know how to “act.”
  • Our nervous systems were not designed to handle the overwhelming connections and information of modern life across the world, but we can learn to navigate it.
  • We can amplify and add to what we want to see in the world, even in small ways.
  • Thriving is possible even amidst challenges, and from that place, we can offer something meaningful to those connected to us.

Emotional Freedom and Presence

  • The first principle of emotional freedom is accepting an unwanted reality so we are not constantly triggered into shock.
  • We can quiet our nervous systems and be present, allowing intuition and clarity to emerge.
  • Pain, whether physical or emotional, is loud and demands attention, but presence can help us hold it with tenderness and transform it.
  • By being present with what is, we create space for change to occur naturally.
  • We can ask for guidance and tune into what reminds us of hope and possibility.

Finding Strength in Connection

  • There are always helpers rising amidst the horror; we can look for, celebrate, and pray for them.
  • Our life force is the most precious resource we have, and we can choose to direct it toward what matters to our hearts.
  • Kindness and appreciation for others can be powerful acts of connection and healing.
  • We can offer meaningful things to the world, even if they only touch a small subset of people.

Releasing Limiting Beliefs

  • We can let go of childhood pacts or vows that no longer serve us, freeing ourselves to live authentically.
  • Being terrified of change does not serve our well-being even as it can brake us from doing actions that we are not “ready for”; we can be mindful of challenges without being paralyzed by fear.
  • We can release the need to heal others (especially after many years of trying everything!) and instead focus on our own freedom and growth.
  • Seeing our family dynamics clearly can be painful, but it is a necessary step toward liberation.

Cultivating Resilience and Hope

  • We can hold a powerful yearning for a different world while taking small, guided steps toward it.
  • Our yearning for freedom and connection is valid and can guide us toward new opportunities.
  • We are not alone in our struggles; there are kind and compassionate people in the world who resonate with our values.
  • By showing up and growing, we align ourselves with those who share our vision of healing and connection.

Honoring Our Energy

  • Ruminating can be a way of processing energy, but we can widen the field of possibilities to move beyond the hamster wheel.
  • When overwhelmed, we can pause, quiet the nervous system, and allow our intuition to guide us to the next step.
  • Our energy is precious, and we can choose to direct it toward nourishing and replenishing actions.
  • We can honor our boundaries and communicate them clearly, even when others are not tracking or respecting them.

Building a New Vision

  • We can imagine a world where relationships are healing, thoughtful, and kind, and we can take steps to create that reality.
  • Acts of service, kindness, and presence are foundational to the connections we want to cultivate.
  • We can free ourselves from one-sided agreements and align with those who share our values and vision.
  • Our capacity for compassion and connection is a gift, and we can use it to build a life that resonates with our deepest desires.
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All this is so helpful, Rick. Thank you for taking the time and energy to write all of this.

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It is SUPER useful for me to go through this process, to review and refine what we cover in just one hour! It helps me feel and remember and embody that which was alive in the circle, in a way that feels respectful of who we are and what we do together.

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Your review is SUPER useful to me too, mahalo!

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Emotional Freedom and Self-Awareness

  • We thrive when we learn to breathe deeply and connect with our bodies.
  • It’s okay to acknowledge that we don’t understand someone, and they don’t understand us.
  • We are not responsible for fixing others’ inability to understand us.
  • Acceptance of incompatibility can bring improved emotional freedom.
  • We can choose to stop taking others’ behavior personally and focus on our own alignment.
  • Emotional freedom doesn’t mean we won’t feel pain; it means we build resilience and learn to navigate it.
  • Observing ourselves in moments of stress is a powerful step toward self-regulation.
  • We are becoming more self-aware than the patterns we were raised in.

Navigating Relationships

  • We can acknowledge that some relationships are roles, not connections.
  • It’s okay to admit when we don’t like someone, even if they are family.
  • We can choose to interact with others in ways that feel congruent with who we are.
  • We don’t have to expect compassion or understanding from those who are incapable of offering it.
  • We can honor our boundaries and prioritize what is essential for our survival and well-being.
  • It doesn’t have to be “shocking” to our sensibilities and nervous system when someone behaves in a way that aligns with their patterns, even if it’s hurtful.
  • We can release the shock of unmet expectations and focus on what we can influence.

Thriving in Adversity

  • We are not defined by strategies that don’t work; we adapt and find new paths.
  • Resistance is a normal reaction, and it’s okay to pause and explore it.
  • We can reframe failure as a step toward discovering what works better for us now, with reality NOW.
  • Thriving often requires us to let go of old stragegies and embrace new options.
  • We can honor our courage and persistence, even when the path is difficult (or blocked).
  • Our circumstances may challenge us, but they don’t define our potential.

Self-Compassion and Growth

  • We are allowed to feel hurt and confused, but we can also choose to move forward anyway.
  • It’s okay to feel resistance to practices like meditation, but we can remain open to their benefits and reframe the technique in terms of what our intentions are.
  • We can celebrate small wins, like recognizing manipulative patterns and recovering quickly.
  • Self-regulation is a life skill that grows with practice and awareness.
  • We are becoming the person we need to be, even in the face of challenges.
  • Our growth is not about perfection but about showing up and doing the best we can.

Embracing Our Unique Path

  • We don’t have to live by others’ expectations; we can create our own thriving life.
  • It’s okay to want different social experiences than those around us.
  • We can explore new opportunities and remain curious about what’s possible.
  • Our differences don’t make us wrong; they make us unique.
  • We can honor our own way of navigating the world, even if it’s different from others.
  • Life is a big world with big opportunities, and we are free to explore them.
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Emotional Freedom and Resilience

  • We can choose to recalibrate and not take others’ actions personally, trusting that their behavior reflects them, not us.
  • Disappointment can build up over time, but we can practice resilience by not internalizing others’ unreliability.
  • Relationships are a two-way street; we deserve mutual effort and follow-through.
  • People are often different once they walk away, and accepting this can free us from unnecessary expectations.
  • It’s okay to feel hurt or disappointed, but we can keep practicing connection and discernment.
  • We can reclaim our energy and focus on what aligns with our values when others fail to meet our expectations.
  • Every relationship presents questions that help us discern compatibility and alignment over time.
  • We can honor our boldness in taking initiative, even if the outcome isn’t what we hoped for.
  • Disappointment can clarify what we truly want and open us to new possibilities.

Thriving Through Self-Acceptance

  • We can unwind tension in ways that serve us and those we care about.
  • Shame is a survival mechanism, but it can also hold life force that we can reclaim and redirect toward thriving.
  • Feeling shame doesn’t mean we’ve done something wrong; it’s often a conditioned response to traumatic circumstances.
  • We can own our experiences without taking on blame, using them as opportunities to grow and align with our values.
  • Our identity is not tied to a role or job; it is rooted in our values and the essence of who we are.
  • When we stay true to our values, we create a foundation for thriving, even in the face of challenges.
  • Letting go of environments or people that don’t align with our values is an act of self-respect and freedom.

Navigating Relationships with Clarity

  • Accepting others as they are can free us from the need to change or control them.
  • We can choose to focus on moments of connection rather than trying to fix or advise others.
  • It’s okay to set boundaries and find the right distance in relationships that feel challenging.
  • We can honor someone’s humanity while also protecting our own energy and well-being.
  • Shifting conversations to lighter, more positive topics can create opportunities for connection without conflict.
  • We are not responsible for others’ choices, but we can still show care and love in ways that feel right for us.

Embracing Change and Freedom

  • Freedom often comes with discomfort, but it allows us to align with what truly matters to us.
  • When we release roles or identities that no longer serve us, we open space for new possibilities.
  • Clarity about our values helps us navigate transitions with confidence and purpose.
  • We can use challenges as opportunities to refine our vision for a thriving life.
  • Letting go of environments that lack integrity or humanity is a step toward greater alignment and freedom.

Practical Strategies for Emotional Balance

  • Lowering reactivity to unpleasant situations can help us stay present and extract value from them.
  • Finding creative ways to engage with challenging circumstances, like using transcripts or summaries, can reduce stress.
  • We can desensitize our nervous system to triggers by acknowledging our discomfort and choosing to stay grounded.
  • It’s okay to ask for adjustments or alternatives when something doesn’t work for us.
  • Small shifts in perspective, like focusing on what’s helpful, can make difficult experiences more manageable.

Living with Intention and Joy

  • Life is short, and prioritizing joy, connection, and meaningful experiences is essential.
  • We can create moments of magic and wonder by sharing what we love with those we care about.
  • Aligning our actions with our values brings a sense of fulfillment and purpose.
  • Thriving is about crafting a life that reflects our deepest desires and values, even in the face of uncertainty.
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Emotional Freedom and Self-Compassion

  • When we are hard on ourselves, it’s like hard labor; it takes a toll on our body and spirit.
  • Being angry at ourselves often moves through our body as pain; releasing that anger can free us.
  • We can choose to stop chiseling away at ourselves and instead nurture our energy.
  • It’s okay to acknowledge that being hard on ourselves hasn’t given us what we truly want.
  • Our body often signals that it’s time for a new strategy when old patterns no longer serve us.
  • Listening to our energy and intuition can guide us toward healing and balance.
  • We are not stupid; we are learning and growing, and our past experiences have made us wiser.
  • It’s important to honor our truth and not judge ourselves for setting boundaries or saying no.

Energy Awareness and Healing

  • Pain that moves around the body can be a sign of stuck energy or emotions seeking release.
  • Emotional energy can manifest as physical sensations; moving that energy can bring relief.
  • Tapping and other energy practices can help shift stagnant energy and open blocked channels.
  • Our energy is our own, and we can call it back home when it feels scattered or depleted.
  • Staying grounded and aware of our body’s connection to gravity can help us feel more solid and present.
  • Cleansing rituals, like dusting off energy or taking a shower, can help release “pollution” from our energy field.
  • Listening to the intelligence of our energy and body can reveal what we need to heal and thrive.

Navigating Relationships and Boundaries

  • It’s okay to recognize when something feels energetically too complex and not right for us.
  • We don’t need to judge others or ourselves for saying no; honoring our truth is enough.
  • Gathering information and trusting our intuition can help us make wise decisions in relationships.
  • We deserve connections that align with our values and support our well-being.
  • It’s kind to acknowledge when something or someone isn’t a fit and to release with grace.

Caring for Ourselves and Others

  • Taking on too much responsibility for another’s well-being can be overwhelming; it’s okay to “share the load” with the universe.
  • Every moment of love and connection we create is a gift, and we can take responsibility for that.
  • We are doing the best we can with the knowledge and intuition we have; that is enough.
  • It’s important to honor the sacredness of our relationships, even in challenging times.
  • Desperation can signal a need for support and grounding; we don’t have to carry everything alone.
  • We can find moments of joy and gratitude even in the midst of difficulty, and those moments are worth celebrating.

Trusting the Process

  • Going from one “yes” to the next is a way to navigate life’s uncertainties with grace.
  • It’s okay to feel lost or unsure; clarity often comes with time and practice.
  • We are co-creating our experiences with the universe, and each step forward is meaningful.
  • Letting go of over-responsibility allows us to focus on love and connection rather than fear.
  • We can trust that we are guided by our intuition and the love we share with others.
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Thriving in the Face of Challenges

  • We are not defined by the struggles of those who came before us; our path is uniquely ours.
  • Our health and well-being are distinct from anyone else’s story.
  • We can choose to focus on what nourishes us and brings us joy, even in the smallest ways.
  • Thriving is not about perfection; it’s about finding moments of life and joy amidst the challenges.
  • A little fear can keep us sharp, but we can channel that energy into living fully.
  • We are the sovereigns of our lives, deciding what is best for our bodies and spirits.

Emotional Freedom and Resilience

  • What’s ours is ours, and what’s theirs is theirs; we don’t have to carry the weight of others’ blame or chaos.
  • It’s okay to acknowledge when our default emotional program is difficult; awareness is the first step to change.
  • We can let go of stories that no longer serve us and create space for new possibilities.
  • Feeling grounded and present in our bodies helps us navigate shock and betrayal.
  • We can recalibrate ourselves by focusing on what feels true and supportive in the moment.

Living with Intention

  • Each day is a blessing, and we can choose to live it fully, even in small, meaningful ways.
  • Moving our bodies, being in nature, and savoring simple pleasures are powerful acts of self-care.
  • We can craft a life that feels good to us, even if it looks different from what others expect.
  • Our spiritual practices, creativity, and connection to the present moment are vital sources of strength.
  • We are not other people’s experiments; we have the right to listen to our bodies and make choices that align with our inner wisdom.

Navigating Relationships and Boundaries

  • Not everyone will share our values, and that’s okay; we can honor our own integrity.
  • Loyalty is a gift, but it’s essential to navigate it wisely and protect our energy.
  • Emotional dysregulation in others is not our responsibility to fix; we can hold our boundaries with compassion.
  • It’s okay to withdraw temporarily to recalibrate and find safety within ourselves.
  • We can seek clarity and support while trusting our instincts about what feels safe and aligned.

Gratitude and Presence

  • Even in the hardest times, we can find moments of gratitude and connection to life.
  • Savoring small joys, like a good meal (burger!) or a walk in the sun, can anchor us in the present.
  • We can be Thriving Anyway, even if it’s just in a few moments each day.
  • This our Precious Life, and we can choose to focus on what brings us meaning and fulfillment.
  • We are here, alive, and capable of creating beauty and joy in our own unique ways.
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Emotional Freedom and Self-Acceptance

  • We are asking our bodies for guidance and trusting their wisdom.
  • It’s okay to be a little on the edge; we don’t have to dive into specifics to find relief.
  • We are bringing our energy back home, allowing our bodies to solidify and relax simultaneously.
  • We are detensioning, settling, and strengthening, creating a sense of stability within ourselves.
  • We allow ourselves to tune into unsettledness, knowing it’s part of the process of deeper settling.
  • We are inviting our bodies to unwind tension while maintaining a healthy tone.
  • We are learning to be sufficiently vigilant without being hyper-vigilant, finding balance in our awareness.
  • We are switching into a different gear, releasing unnecessary strain and effort.
  • We are wise enough to recognize when something feels reckless and honor that feeling.

Thriving Through Emotional Mobility

  • We want emotional mobility, the freedom to move between states without being stuck.
  • We acknowledge that sometimes rushing or being hyper-vigilant is okay, but we don’t want to live there.
  • We are working on bringing our bodies along in the process of emotional freedom.
  • We are learning to undulate between states of vigilance, finding flexibility and mobility in our energy.
  • We are practicing being alive and aware, balancing activation with relaxation.
  • We are allowing ourselves to touch moments of rest and return to our set point, building resilience.
  • We are embracing the ability to settle and strengthen, even in moments of uncertainty.

Boundaries and Self-Responsibility

  • We are wise enough to recognize our limitations and accept that others have theirs too.
  • We are working toward accepting relationships as they are, without regret or fantasy.
  • We are letting go of taking on excessive responsibility for others’ emotions or actions.
  • We are willing to be present and loving, but not at the cost of our well-being.
  • We are learning to differentiate between what is ours to carry and what belongs to others.
  • We are choosing to honor our needs, even when it means saying no to others.

Navigating Uncertainty with Grace

  • We are figuring out our landscape, riding the waves of change with patience and curiosity.
  • We are learning to surf the waves of life rather than being tossed by them.
  • We are settling and strengthening, even when we don’t feel fully strong or settled.
  • We are allowing ourselves to be unrushed, creating space for deeper values to emerge.
  • Relaxation is a good look for us, and we are embracing moments of calm and ease.
  • We are finding clarity in our energy and voice, trusting our ability to navigate challenges.

Honoring the Body’s Wisdom

  • We are bringing our energy back home, listening to the subtle signals of our bodies.
  • We are allowing healing and loving vibes to flow through our bones and being.
  • We are letting anger at external systems create a protective buffer, not internalizing it.
  • We are tending to our bodies moment by moment, honoring micro-steps of healing.
  • We are listening to the loving voice within us that guides us toward what we truly need.
  • We are releasing judgment and focusing on compassionate care for ourselves.

Connection and Belonging

  • We are seeking circles of support where we can both give and receive care.
  • We are exploring what truly matters to us in relationships and community.
  • We are honoring the connections that feel aligned with our values and well-being.
  • We are allowing space for meaningful energetic exchanges, even when physical presence isn’t possible.
  • We are holding space for love and connection in ways that nourish us and those we care about.

All of this… in one hour of circling… I love us!

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Thriving Through Emotional Freedom

  • We thrive when we allow ourselves to build capacity in the present moment, even amidst discomfort.
  • We can remind ourselves that we have the freedom to pause and choose what feels right for us.
  • We are not obligated to push through pain or discomfort; we can honor our limits and make choices that support our well-being.
  • Giving ourselves permission to stop or change course can be a profound act of self-care and freedom.
  • When we release the belief that we “must” endure, we open ourselves to greater freedom and resilience.

Embracing Choice and Letting Go of Sacrifice

  • We are free to choose, even when it feels like we “have to” do something.
  • Sacrifice is not a requirement for love or care; we can honor our needs while supporting others.
  • When we feel trapped, our natural response is resistance; recognizing our freedom can dissolve that tension.
  • We can reframe “I have to” into “I choose to” or “I don’t have to,” which restores our sense of agency.
  • Life becomes lighter when we stop coloring everything as a sacrifice and allow ourselves to prioritize what truly matters.

Honoring Our Role in Co-Creation

  • We can acknowledge the role we play in the lives of others without diminishing the divine or the contributions of others.
  • Recognizing our efforts and contributions is not arrogance; it is an act of inclusion and self-respect.
  • We are co-creators in the beauty and success of our lives and the lives of those we love.
  • Gratitude for the opportunity to serve and support others enriches our experience and deepens our connection.
  • We can celebrate the achievements of others while honoring the part we played in their journey.

Navigating Anxiety and Allowing Clarity

  • Anxiety is not a reliable guide; it is often noise that clouds our ability to make clear decisions.
  • We can practice allowing things to unfold, trusting that clarity will come in time.
  • Pre-disappointment and fear of uncertainty are natural, but they do not have to dictate our actions.
  • We can hold space for both our desires and our responsibilities, trusting our intuition to guide us.
  • Allowing ourselves the freedom to change plans or say no creates a sense of peace and alignment with our values.

Parenting with Freedom and Connection

  • We are not responsible for controlling our children; we are partners in their growth and learning.
  • Rage and frustration often arise from feeling trapped in roles or expectations that don’t align with our freedom.
  • We can honor our children’s needs while setting boundaries that respect our energy and well-being.
  • Parenting is a dance of learning how to live life together, balancing support with independence.
  • By reframing “have to” moments, we create a more harmonious and connected relationship with our children.

Living with Intention and Self-Compassion

  • We can choose to approach challenges with a sense of curiosity and openness rather than resistance.
  • Honoring our “yes” and “no” moments allows us to live in alignment with our inner guidance.
  • Self-compassion means recognizing our imperfections and celebrating our efforts, no matter how small.
  • We are free to release guilt and embrace the truth that we are doing the best we can with what we have.
  • Thriving comes from balancing our responsibilities with our need for joy, rest, and connection.