When to Calm and When to Listen!
Ever been told to “calm down”? How did you feel about that?
Ever told yourself you “should” calm down, while knowing this actually IS a big deal for you in ways that need to be acknowledged?
How do we discern between situations where we’re more triggered than is useful… and situations where we’re rightfully activated?
To me – who values emotional freedom – determining that is up to each of us individually. Other people can ask, reflect, and hold space… but the determination is ours to make.
I needed to develop that skill. Indeed, discernment was one of the first skills I needed on my path to healing and resiliency.
Our inner critic and primitive brain are PART of our discernment network. When they get riled up, there is an “intelligence” at work – even if it is the intelligence of a small dog, or overprotective warden.
I’m looking forward to sharing with you, as is Cathy, some of the questions and perspectives we take when getting clear and deciding what actions to take.
Sometimes (often for me) it involves acknowledging fears… and calming them to an appropriate level so that I can still take actions that matter for my well-being and thriving (and not freeze or procrastinate!).
Listening is core: listening for the message behind the fears (even if it is child-like). Bringing compassion more than self-criticism, aware that fears and angers and anxieties are meant to keep us safe in their own (often crude) ways.
If this practice feels like it would be useful to you, too, join us…
Replay is below
Being calm and confident is part of the process. Core to that is listening with a wise ear, able to discern between guidance and fearful noise.
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Rick & Cathy
Your Emotional Freedom Coaches
P.S. Adira says, “Do you hear what I hear?”
