What questions help you gain clarity?

How do I want to feel?

Emotional energy can respond to intention. Indeed, a core component of EFT Tapping is to acknowledge how we’re feeling in the “Even though I feel ____” part of the setup and then…

The default answer is “I deeply and completely accept myself.”

That is not always how I want to feel. If you’re learning tapping, or even if tapping isn’t your thing, this question can help tune you to a state-of-being (a feeling) that you want, that would be helpful towards your thriving.

But I gotta admit something here…

When I first started using this question, it was not very helpful. Why? Because my answer was “I want to feel happy” or “I want to feel grateful for what I have”.

A Bridge Too Far

With this question I first start with something like “I want to feel ok with this unwanted reality.” See if I can land somewhere in the emotional vicinity of “okay with what is.”

Okay with What IS… that has given me so much relief over the years. Wow.

@CarolLook includes in her tapping “I accept who I am and how I feel about this.” That also helps a lot.

So… “How do you want to feel right now?”

(P.S. Be sure to click [Reply] and add a question you ask yourself or someone has asked you that helps you gain clarity)

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