How would I treat someone else who went through this?
No surprise, most emotionally sensitive people treat themselves FAR more harshly than they would ever consider treating someone else.
The EFT Tapping might go something like this:
- Even though if this was anyone else, I would feel ____… a part of my is convinced I need to treat myself with ____.
- Even though I treat everyone else with _____ if they were going through this, what if I also am an “everyone” who deserves to be treated with compassion and respect?
- Even though a part of me thinks I am in special need of harsh punishment… that’s what I decided way back when… what if I treat myself the way I’d treat others?
I need to add something here. I am NOT assuming you’d treat others less harshly. Sometimes, what we discover if we ask this question is that is “someone else” did ____ or didn’t _____, we might: be really judgmental, reject them, never want to be around them ever again!
If that is your reactive truth, that’s where you need to tap. Start with the truth about how you feel.
I do recommend getting support when we’re locked in harsh judgment over something we’ve done and cannot find a way on our own towards understanding and compassion.
(Forgiveness is another aspect; I suggest not trying to push that unless it is coming naturally. Start with compassionate understanding.)