What does this remind me of?
As I learned more and more about how trauma affected my reactions, this question helped me get closer to the source of what I was feeling (and reacting to).
Trauma has a way of magnifying a reaction. For example, let’s say there’s a man who just “isn’t my kinda friend.” Before I healed the trauma around the sexual abuse I experienced as a teenager by a man, I’d end up HATING anyone who reminded me of him! Could be a smell, the tone of voice, haircut, mannerisms… wow, I wasn’t really with who and what was actually “here and now.” I was reacting 100x as intensely.
“What does this remind me of?” helps me honor and tune to any aspect s that remain unhealed… and I then use EFT Tapping on them.
This also works for body sensations! “What does this remind me of?” isn’t always answered “logically” since trauma is stored in the body in ways that do not always make logical sense. I ask the question… then trust what comes up and go with it for Tapping.
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Rick