Thank you for sharing, Catpaw, and the picture, too.
In the Confused? workshop one of the aspects I wanted to get through – and I’m not sure how well I did – was that sometimes the “decision” isn’t available. We’re in a place where being in as much clarity as we can and putting energy into clarity helps us both find the flow and stay in the flow.
I hear, for example, in your clarity about the divorce leading to you knowing that Right Distance means another continent! Sanity is so much more nourishing than stressed out and overwhelmed.
Have you tried mapping out the “emotional eco-system” you are wanting for yourself? For example, for me there are places that radiate Nature far more than others. Being able to explore and be in places where the nature actually nourishes my well-being is core to my thriving – and that nature is forest and mountains first and foremost and dry deserts not at all. Emotionally I need more openness and tolerance and inclusivity than tribalism – some want to fit in more with only like-minded people.
Great to have you with us, and feel free to start a fresh topic if you want to explore emotional ecosystem mapping more. 
Rick