People SHOULD deliver to the correct address!!
Over the past year, I’ve had my groceries delivered incorrectly (to different addresses in our community) three times. Can you believe it!?!?
That should never happen!
Ding ding ding!
Magical Misconception!
And this is why this concept is so important to my well-being. You see, in addition to the grocery mis-deliveries, just yesterday Amazon said they had delivered two packages. They said “Handed directly to a resident.” Which was not true.
That should never happen!
Ding ding ding!
Magical Misconception!
The reality is, clearly, that does happen. Mis-deliveries happen. The part of me that holds onto the misconception that they should NOT is magically thinking that we live in a world where such perfection is possible. That we’re at the place where GPS and clear numbering and previous reports and corrections SHOULD result in never having to deal with another situation like this.
As an engineer, my brain is geared to see the possibility for improvement. But, honestly, if you saw what happens in my biochemistry and electrical system when I hit a magical misconception of mine, you’d be like:
Whoa, Rick! Let’s take a pause! This isn’t THAT big a deal! Nothing that needs you to fire off rockets and flood the system with outrage chemicals!
This does not mean that I’m “losing it.” On the 0-10 scale, for a sensitive person like myself, a reaction like this is still really “expensive.” A “4” still means that it takes me time and focus to bring my system back into healthy flow.
Escalation?
What I’ve noticed about this Magical Misconception about how deliveries should be is that until I actively recognized it and started EFT Tapping to shift it, my reaction was escalating. By that I mean that with each occurrence, each time what happened (reality) conflicted with how I was convinced it SHOULD be, I was getting more and more reactive.
That’s a clue.
Yesterday’s occurrence instead of being a 9 was a 4, and short-lived 4 as well. Tap tap tap:
It shouldn’t be this way!
People should delivery to the correct address!
People shouldn’t lie about delivering it when they didn’t.
And the reality is: I don’t know where the packages are, and there are steps I can take to address this.
Notice the last bit puts me back into a more confident place. I am competent to deal with this! But only if my inner systems are not conflicted, reactive, and arguing about what actually is right now.
So what replaces the misconception? Something grounded in reality and also intention.
"Mis-deliveries happen still, and with hundreds of deliveries a year, and with the current state of things, some WILL go astray. I can actually expect that, and I can even make it part of my informed consent when participating in the development of better and better home delivery that when it happens, I will competently handle the inconvenience and provide feedback into the system that hopefully will result in long term improvements. I can live with that. (Calming) I can do that. (Confidencing)